Offering support to someone grieving the loss of a pet is often very similar to offering support to someone grieving the loss of a human family member.

Please Do:

–Be There—and Mean It. For many pet owners, it’s comforting just to know that there’s someone whom they can call when they need support. So, if you’re asked to help, do whatever you can to be there for them.

–Take Time to Listen. Sometimes simply talking things through helps pet owners to process the reality of their pet’s death. Telling their story can be very healing and being a shoulder to cry on will mean more than you’ll realize.

–Speak Up When the Time Is Right. Only offer opinions when asked. If your friend needs your input, ask questions so that you’re sure you have all the information you’ll need to give appropriate advice. You may even think of something that your friend hasn’t considered, which could help them journey through their grief.

–Send Flowers or Make a Tribute Gift. A simple reminder of your sympathy can be a great pick-me-up. Tribute gifts are an excellent way to show your support, especially if the money goes toward animal research or to an animal shelter in their pet’s name.

Please Don’t:

–Pretend That Nothing Is Wrong .If you know your friend has lost a pet, be sure to reach out to offer your support and sympathy.

–Bring Up the Age Issue. We all secretly hope that our pet will live forever. Mentioning an animal’s age isn’t helpful to someone who’s struggling with a pet’s mortality.

–Avoid the Topic of Euthanasia. Pet owners who have chosen euthanasia often struggle over whether they made the right decision for their pet. It is a heart-wrenching process for anyone to go through and your friend may be feeling guilt on top of their loss. Please be supportive, empathetic ,and sympathetic without being judgmental.

–Suggest Getting Another Pet. Beloved animals are not easily replaced. However, when they do get a new pet, celebrate the news without comparing that animal to their previous pet.

Keeping all of these things in mind will help your friend know that you are there for them during this sad time.